Recently my
friend Mr. Han’s mother celebrated her birthday. I had previously witnessed celebrations for
two of his daughters, Han, Hye-rhim, and Han, Cho-ah, but they were much more
low key than the kinds of celebrational activities common for children in the
US, and his even his father’s celebration which was simply a complete family
gathering for a common meal followed by cake.
Now I was
able to view something more. This
celebration brought together the entire family at a special restaurant. The entire family consists of Mr. Han, his
wife, his children, his parents, his sister and her husband, and their
children. The talk was family gathering type
talk probably common to people of families anywhere in the world who do not
often see each other; the children’s play was common to children’s play
anywhere in the world; and the sharing of the common family meal is experienced
by most people around the world.
The cake was
little different than one might buy or make in the US – a white cake with a
whipped topping, with decorative topping additions consisting of articles of
chocolate, fruit, and even some made from the topping itself. With the final addition of the candles and the ceremony of lighting them comes a brief rendition of the 'Happy Birthday' song in Korean (Sang il Chukha druimnida) followed by the ceremony of blowing out the candles
The candles,
though perhaps a bit different in appearance than what I was accustomed to seeing
in the US, still represent the years of one’s life as bright points of light –
light which is passed on to their heirs and others through wisdom.
The restaurant
ABOVE AND BELOW: The Menus (the prices are in
\an and range from about $11.00 and up)
BELOW: The accessory items
BELOW: Turtles bringing money for prosperity
BELOW: The entree dishes
ABOVE: A stewed chicken
ABOVE: Octopus legs and other seafood in a special sauce
ABOVE: A vegetable mix waiting for the addition of rice and sauce - Bibimbop
ABOVE: A very delicious rice porridge
ABOVE: A chicken stewed in a special sauce
ABOVE: Mr. Han's parents and the youngest daughter (Han, Cho-ah) to my right, his sister in the far corner, her husband in the left foreground, and the four children (two from each family) view the cake and its candle decorations.
BELOW: The drink for the final toast